I'm a "second-mom" too!

This weekend my stepson came to visit. We haven't seen him for several months for various reasons, none of which are really important to this blog. What is important is how much I love this kid. This one will be quick, just a little insight into the thoughts and feelings I experience each time I get to spend time with Vic.

I remember when I met my husband I had no idea that he had a child, a ten-year old at the time. But when I did find out, which was only about two weeks into our dating relationship, I didn't run, didn't try to play momma and committed myself to being in this child's life if it were meant for me. Sure it was scary at first....I certainly wasn't looking for any "baby momma drama" and definitely knew that I would have to be extremely careful and not try and act like his mother. He has a mother. Although not his mother, I knew that I would be a positive, nurturing force in his life. Needless to say, I love this kid like I birthed him. He's a teenager now, so obviously, we have had difficult times but like most mothers would say, it doesn't change my love and desire for his life to be safe and fulfilling.

Mothering a teenager is fun. Ok...so it comes with its worries too but the relationship between a teenage child and his parents is a unique one. I'd like to consider myself a "pretty cool" stepmom to have and easy to talk to...thus why Vic and I have always been able to talk openly about all things. Vic and I use the phrase that I am his "second mom." Today has been no different. Although I haven't seen him for several months, we haven't skipped a beat. Our afternoon chat has consisted of topics from past drug use , to girls, to family, to the importance of making good decisions and how actions bring consequences...good or bad. I know...I just gave myself away as the clinical social worker that I am! That's ok....I am good at it :) What I love is that I can sit and listen to Vic without judgment, loving him for who he is, and offer a listening ear and advice when he wants it. I have to be honest, I love that this almost seventeen year old kid feels safe enough with me to talk about "teenage stuff" and seems to be interested in the feedback I have to offer. It's an amazing feeling. Man I hate that he's not around more!